Sometimes, I feel like life is overwhelming. There is so much to do, and so little time. So many plans to execute, and no time. That over-enthusiastically drawn to-do list lies on my desk, collecting dust, with every item on that list still unchecked.
Do you ever get the feeling life is going by too fast? People are achieving too much and you’re getting left behind? It’s already been 20 years of your life and you haven’t achieved much? If you don’t, lucky you. If you do, keep reading, you need to calm down.
Firstly, focus on your fears. Which one is it?
People getting ahead of you?
You not achieving what you dreamt of?
Goals seeming impossible?
Don’t know what to do with your life?
Don’t worry, there’s the same solution for all your problems:
Calm down. Take a deep breath. Life is seeming too fast-paced, I know. You think going slow will mean you’ll get left behind, you think you can’t afford to stop. You’re wrong. You can. Remember the saying? It was slow and steady, not fast and heady.
2. Don’t over-push yourself.
Set a do-able limit. Don’t try to achieve a month’s worth of stuff in a week, or worse a day. Yeah, you feel you haven’t got time, well you are wrong again. There are 24 hours in every day, and not every hour is meant to be spent working. Stop, take a look around. You don’t have to get ahead of anyone but yourself. Do only how much you know you can do. Your only competition is yourself.
3. Take help.
There’s nothing cowardly or shameful about admitting you need help. Everyone gets stuck once in a while, and when you’re stuck in quicksand, it’s a lot more helpful to have someone pull you out rather than keep twisting and sinking in. Talk to someone, ask their opinions, tell them your ideas. Who knows, maybe you’ll get a better one. Friends and family have always got your back, you only have to ask.
4. You are only 20.
Or whatever your age is. Whatever it is, it is young, and it is not the end of the road. Remember, Vera Wang decided to become a designer when she was 40, Samuel Jackson started acting at 46. It is never too late to pursue your dreams, so don’t hurry thinking it’s now or never.
5. Take a break.
Take a break everyday. A SMALL ONE. Not even the best programmers or writers can code or write for 20 hours a day. Your body needs a break. Your mind needs a break. Take a break, think of something unrelated to work, and return fresh and more focused. Hustle, don’t Over-Hustle.
6. Don’t get over-excited.
Yes, you may have got this brilliant idea just before you went off to sleep last night. Does not necessarily mean it’s new. It might already exist, or have people working on it. Either way, don’t think too much about the future, instead get started on it. Similarly, if you have an idea that’s been done, don’t worry. YOU are making this. This will have YOUR touch to it. It will be different.
7. One thing at a time.
Multitasking is a myth. Focus on one project at a time. Complete it, then move on to other things. Taking up 5 different projects at a time will only end up with you messing up half or more of them. Even if one feels particularly boring at the time, stick with it. One slow major success is better than ten fast small successes.
8. Do your research.
Whatever your idea, make sure it doesn’t already exist. If it does, find out how can you improve it, or build on it. Don’t steal someone’s idea, or any content off the Internet, you’ll get stuck later. Learn, understand, take your time, but do it YOUR way.
9. Be honest.
To yourself. Don’t kid yourself if you know deep down it won’t work. If it won’t, find another idea or improve on it. Don’t give up, but don’t create illusions in your mind either. Be realistic. Be practical.
10. Stay calm.
You have a lot to achieve in life, maybe. Maybe people are depending on you. Maybe you need this success to mark your place in the world. Whatever be the reason, it’s not going to happen if you don’t keep a level head. Stay calm. Face your problems calmly, and think of solutions. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
So these are my top 10 tips that I go to, whenever I feel I am drowning in a sea of my unfulfilled expectations. Leave a comment below with any of your tips, and if you want to talk. Until next time, stay calm, hustle, stay focused.